Betraying myself
I always tried to be an honest person. And keep my word. Did I always do that - no. Could’ve I’ve tried harder to fulfill my promisees - yes.
And the person I’ve broken promises to is myself. Dan Ariely has a very good suggestion, that we’re different person when making promise to eat healthy from the person that wakes up in the middle of the night looking for that ice cream in the fridge.
And I’m sorry for betraying my true self so many times. I don’t have powers to turn back time. But I have ability to go through with the promises I’ve made to myself.
How do you keep your promises to yourself?
Lying to yourself
The person the most affected by our lies are ourselves. And the smarter we are, the easier it is to lie to ourself. Because we’re smart we can come up with many excuses. And tell many fascinating stories. Stories we want to believe in.
And some of those stories can help achieve us great results. But what happens when the pretty story faces the reality.
Now it’s a clash of wills: are you strong enough to bend reality to your story. Or will your story crash against the concrete of reality.
Be honest with yourself. And it will help you to bend the reality.
Self-development, coaches, etc…
At some point in the past (and nowadays sometimes) people thrawn upon coaches or “self-development” classes.
And they have all the rights to do so: those classes and coaches won’t tell you anything new. Most of the things I’ve heard from coaches I’ve herd before from my friends, parents, Youtube videos, etc.
The only reason for those coaches and classes to exist it to “make” you do something. Knowledge without skill is not measurable.
The transition from knowledge to skill to habit to “automatic” is the only purpose of such environments. And this is the most important one.
It’s one think to “know” how to milk a cow. And completely different is to be able to go to a barn and return with a bucket full of milk.
Application of Knowledge
In modern era when knowledge is available for free on the internet (YouTube, Facebook. Telegram, you name it). Almost everyone “knows” how to do things. Almost everyone can tell you “how to live right”. And most likely you “know” it too. And we need to remember: there is difference between knowledge and skill. Skill is a repetitive application of knowledge with the expected and measured results.
Today I’ve got one more confirmation of this belief.
So do you want to “know” how to live your best life? Or do you want to have a skill to live your best life? If it’s the latter, you can start practicing now.
Environment
How important to have an environment that supports and motivates you?
I was lucky enough to always be surrounded by people who are better than me. I didn’t like to be around people who I don’t look up to. Sometimes it’s nice to feel that “you’re on top”. But every time I allowed myself to stop and relax, reality knocked on the door and reminded me about my true self. Unfortunately, meetings with reality are always painful. And it’s hard to go through such times. But constantly reminding myself who I truly am helped to go through such circumstances.
It’s very painful to leave old circles behind. I did it many times. And every time I felt I left part of my soul behind.
And finding a new circle, new mark to grow to tells me I’m on the right path.
What is your circle? What they motivate you to do and to achieve?
The moment of lightnig
There are two events in our lives that are inevitable. And personal. Birth and death. No one will be born for you and no one will die instead of you. The rest of time between those two events are what we have. It’s called life. And it’s very important to live YOUR life.
To live YOUR life we need to collect and unpack all the impressions that we live in the world, places, people.
And the only way to do that is to work, when a lightning strikes and you face reality. And have enough courage to be true to yourself.
Meeting with reality
Many times I’ve betrayed myself and betrayed my purpose. And every time I met someone who helped me to face reality. To ask myself a question: do I want to lie to myself or do I want to live my life?
Unfortunately, every meeting with reality for me was painful. And every time I was reminded of what I can be. And what can I give to this world.
I’m endlessly grateful for all the people who helped me to meet the reality. And I’m thankful for people who was with me in different parts of my life. Who supported me and those who challenged me.
Today I’ve met with reality one more time. And this time I’m choosing my life.